🖤 How to Talk to Your Partner About Trying Sex Toys (Without It Being Awkward)

Let’s be real: bringing up sex toys with your partner can feel… tricky.
Even in a loving relationship, topics like new fantasies or adult products can stir up nerves. But it doesn’t have to be awkward—it can actually bring you closer.

At Ooh La La Play, we believe that pleasure is meant to be shared. This guide will help you start the conversation, confidently and respectfully, so you can explore together.

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Instead of treating it like a serious or uncomfortable subject, frame it as something playful and natural. You’re not “fixing” anything—you’re inviting something fun into your relationship.

🖼️ Image Prompt 1:

“A loving couple sitting on a cozy sofa, talking softly and smiling. Warm lighting and intimate atmosphere, showing emotional safety.”

💬 Choose the Right Moment

Don’t start the conversation during sex. Instead, pick a relaxed moment—like during a quiet evening or while watching a show that touches on relationships.

Example:

“Hey, I came across an article about couples trying sex toys together. It actually sounded kind of fun—have you ever thought about it?”

💡 Focus on Curiosity, Not Criticis

Reassure your partner this isn’t about being unsatisfied. You’re not suggesting they’re lacking anything—just that you’re excited to explore new things together.

Say:

“I really enjoy our time together, and I thought it might be fun to explore something new as a team.”

🛍️ Suggest Exploring Together

Instead of pushing a specific product, invite them to browse with you.

“There’s this site called Ooh La La Play—it has some really cool stuff. Want to check it out with me and see if anything catches your eye?”

This makes the process playful, shared, and non-intimidating.

❝ Good intimacy is about trust. Great intimacy is about communication. ❞

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If your partner isn’t sure, that’s okay. Let them sit with the idea. The point isn’t to get a “yes” right away—it’s to open the door.

Over time, being able to talk about fantasies, preferences, and desires openly becomes easier and more exciting.

Start with:

• A massage oil
• A vibrating ring
• A small, body-safe beginner toy

Focus on fun, not performance.

🔥 Try These Conversation Starters

• “If we could try one new thing in bed, what would it be?”
• “Would you be open to adding something like a toy to spice things up?”
• “I saw a toy designed for couples—it looks kind of interesting!”

Keep it curious, not pushy. And don’t forget to listen, too.

Written by Amara Quinn

At Ooh La La Play, we know the best kind of pleasure is shared. Whether you’re new to toys or ready to level up, we’re here to help you explore with confidence, curiosity, and connection.

So go ahead—start that conversation. Your next favorite moment might be just one “Ooh La La” away. 💖